SIFA KUMI ZA KUMTAMBUA MPENZI WA KWELI

1.Mpenzi wa kweli ni yule ambaye hatangoja kujua nini unahitaji yaani hana sababu ya kusubiri kuombwa ndiyo atoe msaada.

2. Ni yule atakayejua wakati gani huna furaha au una furaha na atakuwa na wewe kwa hali zote mbili .

3. Ni yule atayekuwa tayari kukusikiliza kwa kile utakachosema, hatojali umeongea baya au zuri

4. Atakuwa na wewe wakati wa shida na raha. Hatakuwa mtu wa kuvizia vizia na kujisogeza wakati ukiwa na raha.

5. Mpenzi wa kweli atakuheshimu na hatopenda kuwa kikwazo cha maisha yako, atakulinda daima.

6. Atakupenda kwa moyo wake wote na wala si kwa ajili ya shinikizo fulani (pesa au mali)

7. Mpenzi wa kweli ni yule atakayeonyesha kuthamini nafasi yako kama rafiki au mpenzi mbele ya wengine, hafichi hisia zake mbele za watu, atakutetea na kukufanya wa kwanza.

8. Kwenye ukweli mpenzi mzuri atasema bila kukuficha na atapenda kukuonyesha mifano ya namna ya kuwa mkweli na mwaminifu.

9. Mpenzi wa kweli ni yule anayejiamini, asiyeyumba katika maamuzi hata kama atalazimika kufanya maamuzi magumu .

10. Atakuwa tayari kuvumilia, hatakuwa mwepesi wa hasira wala kutumia lugha chafu na ubabe.

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UN yalaani sera za kanisa katoliki

Umoja wa mataifa umetuhumu makao makuu ya kanisa katoliki la Vatican kwa kuidhinisha na kutumia sera zilizowezesha mapadre kubaka na kuwalawiti maelfu ya watoto.

Kamati ya umoja wa mataifa ya haki za watoto imesema kanisa hilo linapaswa kuondoa wote wanaokiuka haki za watoto kutoka nafasi za uongozi na kuanzisha uchunguzi dhidi yao.

Kamati hiyo imekiri kuwa japo Vatican imeshiriki mazungumzo na kuahidi mageuzi, bado inahitaji kupiga hatua kubwa zaidi.
Mengi yaliyoandikwa katika ripoti hii yamekuwa yakiangaziwa na vyombo vya habari. Shutma hizo ni pamoja na kuharibu watoto, kuwapa adhabu kali na kuwatenganisha na wazazi wao.
Umoja wa mataifa unasema uongozi wa kanisa katoliki unapaswa kufanya juhudi zaidi ili kuzuia makosa yaliyowahi kutokea.
Umoja wa mataifa pia umesifia marekebisho yalioyafanywa katika sheria za Vatican lakini umesema kwamba utekelezaji unahitajika kwa kasi.
Kwa upande wake kanisa katoliki limekiri kwamba linahitaji kuhakikisha kwamba sheria zake zinaambatana na sheria za umoja wa mataifa kuhusu haki za watoto.
Ripoti hiyo pia imekosoa msimamo wa Kanisa katoliki mapenzi ya jinsia moja,upangaji uzazi na uavyaji mimba.

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THIS IS FOR REAL MEN

Fellas, don't flirt with a girl when you don't really mean anything you say. Don't text a girl all day long when you're actually texting more than one girl. Don't go out on a date with a girl when you're just take another girl out the next day.

Don't tell her you're thinking about her when she isn't the only girl on your mind. Don't tell her you miss her when you wouldn't care if you had never seen her again. Don't tell her you love her when you would just love to get in her pants.  Don't make her feel like she's special when there's other girls who are getting the same treatment from you. Don't make her promises that you know you aren't able to keep. 

Don't make her believe you care about her when she's just another girl to you. By doing these things, you get a girl's hopes up & you give her expectations & because that happens, the disappointment hits her so hard & now she's emotionally damaged.

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10 Choices You Will Regret in 10 Years

“If only…”  These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language.
Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them:

1. Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it.  Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are.  So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you.  You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people.  Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you. – The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find.  A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams.  Do you have people who disagree with you?  Good.  It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path.  Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing. 
3. Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you.  Don’t let them get to you.  They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun.  When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.
4. Being selfish and egotistical. – A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone.  Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired.  So carve your name on hearts, not stone.  What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.
5. Avoiding change and growth. – If you want to know your past look into your present conditions.  If you want to know your future look into your present actions.  You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back.  If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success.  
6. Giving up when the going gets tough. – There are no failures, just results.  Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up.  Learn what you can and move on.  The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end.  Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory.  It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.
7. Trying to micromanage every little thing. – Life should be touched, not strangled.  Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement.  Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight.  Take a deep breath.  When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward.  You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great.  Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not.  It just takes some time to connect all the dots.
8. Settling for less than you deserve. – Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.  Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before.  Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again.  Don’t settle.
9. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do.  But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do.  And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t. 
10. Being lazy and wishy-washy. – The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something.  So stop daydreaming and start DOING.  Develop a backbone, not a wishbone.  Take full responsibility for your life – take control.  You are important and you are needed.  It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday.  Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.

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Relationship Truths We Often Forget

It’s easy to make your relationships more complicated than they are.  Here are twelve simple reminders to help you keep them on course.

1. All successful relationships require some work. – They don’t just happen, or maintain themselves.  They exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts.  Open communication and honesty is the key.
2. Most of the time you get what you put in. – If you want love, give love.  If you want friends, be friendly.  If you’d like to feel understood, try being more understanding.  It’s a simple practice that works.
3. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. – Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will create one for you.
4. There is a purpose for everyone you meet. – Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you.  Learn to see and accept the differences between these people, and carry on accordingly.
5. We all change, and that’s okay. – Our needs change with time.  When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing.  Sometimes it just means you stopped living your life their way.  Don’t apologize for it.  Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.
6. You are in full control of your own happiness. – If your relationship with yourself isn’t working, don’t expect your other relationships to be any different.  Nobody else in this world can make you happy.  It’s something you have to do on your own.  And you have to create your own happiness first before you can share it with someone else.  If you feel that it’s your partner’s fault, think again, and look within yourself to find out what piece is missing.  Your partner can never ‘complete’ you because you are already whole.  The longing for completion that you feel inside comes from being out of touch with who you are. 
7. Forgiving others helps YOU. – Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer.  It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
8. You can’t change people; they can only change themselves. – Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.  If there’s a specific behavior someone you love has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t.  If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows what you need them to do.
9. Heated arguments are a waste of time. – The less time you spend arguing with the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.  And if you happen to find yourself arguing with someone you love, don’t let your anger get the best of you.  Give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss the situation.
10. You are better off without some people. – When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. If someone continuously mistreats you or pushes you in the wrong direction, have enough respect for yourself to walk away from them. It may hurt for a little while, but it’ll be ok. You’ll be ok, and far better off in the long run.
11. Small gestures of kindness go a long way. – Honor your important relationships in some way every chance you get.  Every day you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by making small gestures to show your appreciation and affection.  Remember, making one person smile can change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  Your kindness and gratitude matters.
12. Even the best relationships don’t last forever. – People don’t live forever.  Appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you.  You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you.  And remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.

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Top 10: Relationship Problems

Whenever you break up with a significant other, it's normal to begin questioning each other's behavior, as there may be things you could have done to avoid the split. If your relationship is currently on the rocks, here are 10 things that might be the root of the problem.

Number 10

Looks that kill
Solid, long-lasting relationships are about far more than physical appeal. But men and women like eye candy, and if you are not attracted to your partner, chances are that you will face an uphill battle. Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but if that eye is wandering, so will the feelings.

Number 9

Someone else
Whether you wish to admit it or simply deny it, the root of a relationship problem could have nothing to do with you. If your significant other is fancying someone else, then nothing you do can salvage it until the third wheel is detached (unless she is interested in this someone else as a result of your lack of attention).

Number 8

Lack of quality time
What you get out of relationships is a function of what you put into them, and if you refuse to spend time with one another, then chances are you are living on borrowed time. And by "quality" I mean actually interacting with one another, not simply nodding and staring blankly when she talks.

Number 7

Distance
Long-distance relationships can work — and very well at that — after all, absence makes the heart grow fonder. But there's also the "out of sight, out of mind" scenario so be careful not to take things for granted. Call often, exchange e-mail and trade pictures; go the extra mile and send her a homemade video to rekindle that old magic despite the miles. Okay, maybe not that kind of video...

Number 6

Goodbye to romance
Women love romance, as do men. Even if the respective definitions differ according to each gender, the genuine desire to feel loved and love someone in return is irreplaceable. Say goodbye to romance and suffer the consequences.

Number 5

"I want your sex"
Sex is a culmination of feelings, lust, love, and affection. It may take time to build up the right moment and sensations, but unless there is an improvement in communication, mutual satisfaction and a primal desire to please one another, your relationship will be shaky at best. Rock one another's world — it can serve to patch things up and create a spark.

Number 4

Jealousy
Jealousy stems from a lack of trust, a sense of possessiveness and paranoia. It can kill a relationship in a heartbeat. The problem with jealousy is that it represents an uphill battle on a slippery slope; no matter how much you try to gain traction, you end up slipping faster and further down.

Number 3

Communication breakdown
I cannot stress this enough: relationships must be an exchange, a balance between two people and two perspectives. Next time you would like to say something but choose not to, remember that you are suffocating your love and stunting its growth.

Number 2

Once a cheater, always a...
Infidelity sucks, as that moment of lust and passion will inevitably lead to remorse, pain, guilt, and tears for the other person. It also engenders a lack of trust and eternal resentment within the relationship. Best-case scenario: the person takes you back but throws it in your face when you most expect it. Worst-case scenario: they don't get mad — they get even.

Number 1

NOISE
 
Noise is not just excess sound; it is anything that comes between the two of you. It could be family, friends, exes... any uncontrollable variable that tries to hinder your relationship. Eliminate the noise before you get elimidated .

Relationships need to be nurtured in order to grow. Just like people, when relationships are sick, there needs to be a diagnosis of the problem before finding a cure. Find out what the symptoms are, try to determine the cause, face it, address it, deal with it, and only then will you be able to make your relationship a long-term success.

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YOUR MAN NEEDS YOU TO NEED HIM

Stand by your man. Your man is not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. 

He’s not going to quote poetry, his not thinking about you every moment, but he’ll give you a part of him that he knows you could break. His heart, He may not have the words to make you feel okay every time but he has the arms to hug you…Ears to listen to you and a heart that aches to see you smile. 

 

So, don’t hurt him, don’t analyze him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Smile when he makes you happy, yell at him when he makes you mad, and miss him when he is not there. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.

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